[BugFix] fix cloud native index memtable memory calculation (backport #54464)

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Why I'm doing:

In previous PR #54358 , I change the memtable's memory_usage() function to:

size_t PersistentIndexMemtable::memory_usage() const {
-    return _keys_size + _map.size() * sizeof(IndexValueWithVer);
 +   return _map.bytes_used();
}

But I found that bytes_used() provide by btree map can't get the real memory usage.

What I'm doing:

Rollback to previous strategy first, will find out a better way later.

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr