Make it possible to run 'make benchmark-%' using jvm 17+ (apache#823)

When using jvm 17+ spark needs extra jvm args to avoid getting errors
like
```
[ERROR] Failed to execute goal org.codehaus.mojo:exec-maven-plugin:3.2.0:java (default-cli) on project comet-spark-spark3.4_2.12: An exception occurred while executing the Java class. class org.apache.spark.storage.StorageUtils$ (in unnamed module @0x35b75242) cannot access class sun.nio.ch.DirectBuffer (in module java.base) because module java.base does not export sun.nio.ch to unnamed module @0x35b75242 -> [Help 1]
```

These args are already present inside the main pom.xml. To avoid
duplicating the args we using maven to extract them. In order avoid
slowing down the Makefile the args are defined as a function and
therefore only evaluated when they are needed.

Makefile

@@ -17,6 +17,10 @@
 
 .PHONY: all core jvm test clean release-linux release bench
 
+define spark_jvm_17_extra_args
+$(shell ./mvnw help:evaluate -Dexpression=extraJavaTestArgs | grep -v '\[')
+endef
+
 all: core jvm
 
 core:
@@ -80,7 +84,7 @@ release:
 release-nogit:
 	cd native && RUSTFLAGS="-Ctarget-cpu=native" cargo build --release
 	./mvnw install -Prelease -DskipTests $(PROFILES) -Dmaven.gitcommitid.skip=true
-benchmark-%: clean release
-	cd spark && COMET_CONF_DIR=$(shell pwd)/conf MAVEN_OPTS='-Xmx20g' ../mvnw exec:java -Dexec.mainClass="$*" -Dexec.classpathScope="test" -Dexec.cleanupDaemonThreads="false" -Dexec.args="$(filter-out $@,$(MAKECMDGOALS))" $(PROFILES)
+benchmark-%: release
+	cd spark && COMET_CONF_DIR=$(shell pwd)/conf MAVEN_OPTS='-Xmx20g ${call spark_jvm_17_extra_args}' ../mvnw exec:java -Dexec.mainClass="$*" -Dexec.classpathScope="test" -Dexec.cleanupDaemonThreads="false" -Dexec.args="$(filter-out $@,$(MAKECMDGOALS))" $(PROFILES)
 .DEFAULT:
 	@: # ignore arguments provided to benchmarks e.g. "make benchmark-foo -- --bar", we do not want to treat "--bar" as target