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<p>我今年24了属于大龄未婚青年了。</p>
<p> 在我们村子里这都属于奇闻轶事了。</p>
<p> 就是在那样一个仍然有封建思想残留的小村子里,我已然年迈的父亲找人说媒给我安排了相亲。</p>
<p>相亲不是今年才流行来的,而是一直从遥远到不知道什么朝代流传下来的。</p>
<p>我的老一辈,我的同辈,甚至我的小辈都注定要把这个模式延续下去。 </p>
<p>在父母的催说下我开始了我纠结的相亲之路。 </p>
<p>相亲是现实的,他关系到婚姻,他关系到子孙后代,他关系到家族兴旺,他关系到历史更迭。</p>
<p>是这样的。我没有任何夸张。 </p>
<p>相亲的过程是矛盾而纠结的,有新鲜刺激,有仓皇失措。 </p>
<p>我总得找一个我喜欢的人来相爱来相守来相伴到死吧。</p>
<p>所以,尽管我相亲的数量在增加但成功率一直没有丝毫见涨。 </p>
<p>我很灰心。总结起来有如下几点我没有做到。 </p>
<p>第一、彩礼。如今的我没有积蓄没有任何突出的收入。如何能拿出近10W的礼金 </p>
<p>第二、房子。我没有丝毫的信心在我死之前可以买到一套房。 </p>
<p>第三、车。四个轮子的车没有。车马炮的车倒是有。 </p>
<p>第四、事业。糊口可以富足就永远也谈不上。 </p>
<p>就是这样的现实。</p>
<p>相亲就是在这样的问题问答当中开始又结束。 </p>
<p>仓促的见面又仓促的各奔东西,在各自的记忆中丝毫不会留下半分的印象。 </p>
<p>这个社会理想永远是遥远的不可实现的。 </p>
<p>就是这么的现实。 </p>
<p>今天是七夕。</p>
<p>祝福大家有情人终究分手。有钱人终成眷属。</p>
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